Your Arousal Language

You’ve heard of the five love languages (no?! get studying!), well now there are five arousal languages for you to sort out. And these are critical to your effectiveness as a good lover!

1. Sexual – you are aroused by naked bodies, POV videos, porn, and are most likely to want to immediately “get it on” – no messing around with foreplay for this arousal type.
2. Kinky – you are turned on by anything taboo … that’s right, BDSM, pain, poop, piercings … Daddy/baby girl, all that “naughty” stuff.
3. Sensual – romance, bubble baths, candles, feathers, foot rubs (rubbing other “parts”), lots and lots of foreplay. As a matter of fact, foreplay is the “meat” of your arousal meal.
4. Energetic – you crave intense eye contact, connection, tantra, teasing, and you are super sensitive … no overactive/firm touching for you. Slow and easy does the trick.
5. Shape Shifter – you need all of the above. Insatiable, ever needing variety and eager to please your partner with any of the above methods because you crave them all.

And just to be clear, guys and gals can be any of the above. Don’t assume all women are sensual and all men are sexual … no, no, no … you would be making a grave mistake about your lover. ASK or try each one and see where your partner responds!

Mommy/son Ageplay

Probably previously better known was Daddy/babygirl ageplay. But in 2014, Mom, MILF and Stepmom where all in the top 5 most searched porn terms. In 2015, Stepmom jumped to #1 in the US and #3 globally. (source: pornhub – 87 billion porn videos were watched in 2015 – that’s 12 videos for every person on the planet!)

Young men searching for porn videos today have grown up watching porn since their early sexually formative years. What female is around in their daily life to project their sexual fantasies onto? Mom.

With so many young men using porn for masturbation for so long, it can be difficult for them to translate that form of sexual satisfaction to sexual intimacy with a Woman. So who better to teach them about pleasing a Woman? Who is the most trusted Woman in their lives? Mom. Are they going to go to Mom for that – no! But … they can learn from an older Woman who “seems” like Mom.

So, yes! Mommy/son porn is hot right now. Older Women are sexually confident and know what they want and love to teach younger guys. Everyone wins!

Wikipedia:

Ageplay is not considered pedophilia or related to pedophilia by professional psychologists. Individuals who ageplay enjoy portraying children, or enjoy childlike elements typical of children present in adults.

Sexual ageplay itself does not involve the sexual attraction to biologically underage people. Rather, when a consenting adult takes on the roleplaying mindset of a young person, it is motivated by re-experiencing emotional states and social interactions of one’s youth, which also happen to be pleasurable in a sexual context to the participants.

Is Porn Really Turning Us into Craven Sexless Zombies?

OK … I am just paraphrasing this article for you … and have a few comments of My own, based on My empirical research. I, personally, DO find that young men (18-32) seem (underlined) to have an issue based around porn. FROM MY EXPERIENCE, these young men who grew up watching porn in their sexually formative years (10-17) DO INDEED have trouble connecting intimately with girls. They PREFER to masturbate to porn than to have sexual intercourse with a real person (too much work, physically and emotionally). AND, it is f*cking scary for them to be vulnerable/intimate with another person.

This is an area of work that I specialize in and support young men in overcoming porn addiction and opening up to being intimate with another human being.

However, research (underlined), shows:

• porn actually has far more positive than negative effects
• that it’s only problematic for a minority of users
• studies haven’t found that men who use more porn have more erectile difficulties
• there’s no evidence that greater usage of porn is contributing to more sexual violence

Here’s the full article:

http://www.vice.com/read/the-hard-data-on-what-porn-is-really-doing-to-humanity

What is your view/experience?