Your Arousal Language

You’ve heard of the five love languages (no?! get studying!), well now there are five arousal languages for you to sort out. And these are critical to your effectiveness as a good lover!

1. Sexual – you are aroused by naked bodies, POV videos, porn, and are most likely to want to immediately “get it on” – no messing around with foreplay for this arousal type.
2. Kinky – you are turned on by anything taboo … that’s right, BDSM, pain, poop, piercings … Daddy/baby girl, all that “naughty” stuff.
3. Sensual – romance, bubble baths, candles, feathers, foot rubs (rubbing other “parts”), lots and lots of foreplay. As a matter of fact, foreplay is the “meat” of your arousal meal.
4. Energetic – you crave intense eye contact, connection, tantra, teasing, and you are super sensitive … no overactive/firm touching for you. Slow and easy does the trick.
5. Shape Shifter – you need all of the above. Insatiable, ever needing variety and eager to please your partner with any of the above methods because you crave them all.

And just to be clear, guys and gals can be any of the above. Don’t assume all women are sensual and all men are sexual … no, no, no … you would be making a grave mistake about your lover. ASK or try each one and see where your partner responds!

Where to Get Your Kink On

Most of you are here because you saw Me on FetLife.com or Alt.com. These are My favorite kinky sites. FetLife is like Facebook for kinksters. It is free, but you have to know how to use it in order to get something out of it. They kinda force the use of discussion groups for you to find people you are looking for with the same interests. The first thing to do is conduct a search on your hometown. A page with “tabs” will pop up showing you a list of Kinksters, Groups, Fetishes, Events, and Locations. Choose the Location tab and see a list of all kinksters in your area. Or, of course, check out a group with your interest and find people that way as well.

Alt is well … alt. FetLife is like Disneyland and Alt is like Alcatraz. Get ready for some pretty edgy stuff on Alt (photos included). Thing is … you pay for Alt. There are also a lot of professional Doms on Alt as well as scammers – probably due to the extreme environment. So, buyer beware. 🙂

Either way, they are great places to find kinky adventure!