Hard Limits and Soft Limits

Before you have a session with a Domina, take time to write down your hard limits and soft limits. Hard limits are those things that you absolutely never want to do (involve animals, draw blood, permanent body damage, death, etc.) For some men that might include anal penetration or interaction with other men. And know the difference between terms – “edge play” includes things like guns, knives, razors, piercing, body hooks, branding … while “edging” means getting close to orgasm and backing off before cumming. Soft limits are those things that (if you trust your Domina) you would allow Her to do but knowing that they would cause you bodily or emotional distress (perhaps being pegged or humiliated in public). This is probably one of the most important discussions you can have with your Domina prior to a session, so take your time to really think about these things and write them down so they can be discussed and agreed upon.